We’ve all been through breaking up with a loved one. It doesn’t matter if the break-up was good or bad, it’s still a very hard thing to do. It’s ok to feel stripped of your emotions, identity and ambitions in this type of situation. However, the power in falling down is getting back up. During those moments of despair (and singledom), I wanted to give you some words of wisdom to get you back on track after a break-up. These methods helped me, try them out and let me know if they work for you.
- Find Your Inner Peace: Break-ups will leave you emotionally and mentally depleted. It’s a good idea to reset your inner spirit. The best way to do this is through church, soul searching, mediation or any method that allows you to cleanse yourself of negativity and connect with your inner peace. Remember, a sound peace of mind is more valuable than gold!
- Focus On Other Things: Being single, I’ve realized that I achieve so much more than being in a relationship. My focus tends to be more intense because my mind is clear of any outside distractions. Now is the time to learn a new language, take dance lessons, focus on your career or whatever else you missed out on during those days and nights you stayed “boo’d” up.
- Connect With Old Friends: I’m sure your friends missed you during your “I got a man/woman” period. Take some time to have a girls/guys night out and catch up on whats been going on since you’ve disappeared. However, this is not the time to talk about him/her all night. Don’t be a Debbie Downer! Instead have fun, laugh and be with friends and family to take the pain away.
- Meet New People: If you have an unhealthy relationship with your friends and family, then it’s not a good idea to connect with them during your emotional rough patch- they may make things worse. Try venturing out to events, social gatherings or any place that allows you to make new connections with people. The temptation of reaching out to your ex when you’re home alone flooding in tears is so much stronger. So get out of the house and your comfort zone. It’s key!
- Workout: I know pulling yourself out of bed and getting on a treadmill seems like an insurmountable feat right now. Nevertheless, lifting a couple of weights can improve your psychological state of mind more than you realize.
When you exercise, your body releases a chemical called endorphins. These endorphins interact with the receptors in your brain that reduces your perception of pain. –WebMd
Even if you can’t afford to go to the gym, go out for a run or ride a bike, do something to get your endorphins pumping. I suggest taking a boxing class. That way you can imagine your exes face on the punching bag. Ahhh, wooosah!
What are some of the things you do to get back on track after a breakup? Please share, it might help someone else!
Xo,
Nekia
